Said with Rage

Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry.
-- Henry Ward Beecher

When we are angry, we do not have much hold of ourselves. Hence, we end up saying or doing things that we soon regret. We are often advised to count to ten before we speak or act whenever we are angry. Often though it has been told to us, we always seem to forget to heed this.

What Beecher says makes sense. When someone blurts out something in anger, oftentimes, it is something he has been wanting to tell you but has stopped himself from doing so. I can say that this is true in my own experience.

What is more important though is what we tell ourselves when we are angry at ourselves. Let us face it, there is always something in us that we are angry about. And if this angry self is not listened to, its anger intensifies to rage. And anger and rage turned to one's self leads to depression.

Painful as it is, it is very important to listen to the anger turned within. Listen to that angry self. Acknowledge what it feels and address its concerns. It may be a fearful and exhausting experience, but well worth it because beneath the anger is something revealed about ourselves.